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Have you experienced a betrayal of trust? If so, did it affect your ability to trust again?

I experienced the worst kind of betrayal of my trust, in that, I was abused, both sexually, physically, and emotionally as a child.

I can honestly say it shattered my faith in people.

Now, I find it really difficult to trust anyone, and it takes me a long time to build up trust and if it is broken I’m unlikely to trust you again.

Abuse changes you. It ruins you.

Trust is so fragile, its so hard to build, and so easy to break.

Do you consider yourself a trustworthy friend? Have you ever betrayed the trust of another even if they never knew? Would others see you as trustworthy?

I feel that I am a trustworthy friend. I don’t break other peoples trust. If someone tells me something in confidence, then I won’t tell anyone, especially if that person has told me not to.

People tell me I am a good listener, I pride myself on being attentive to others when they talk to me.

I’m sure there were times when I betrayed the trust of a friend, or a family member, but those times are few and far between, and if I did that, I had a very good reason to do so.

How do you recover and allow yourself to trust and be vulnerable again?

I’ve learned that if someone earns my trust, then it is ok to be vulnerable with that person. One such person is my therapist Eileen. I have learned that she is safe, and it is safe to be vulnerable in her presence.

It isn’t easy for me to be vulnerable, and I’m still learning, but now, I feel able to open up more to certain people.

Trust – Tranquil Thursday #15 (wordpress.com)