#JusJoJan Daily Prompt – January 14th, 2018


Your prompt for January 14th, 2018, brought to you by a new-to-me blogger, Itinerary Planner, is “Ultimatum.” Use it any way you’d like in your post. And make sure you visit Itinerary Planner at her blog, “Travel Itineraries: Travel the World for Less” (sounds good to me!) to read her post and say hi! Here’s her link: https://traveltinerary.com/

a couple years ago I had a therapist we’ll call her j. one day after I had taken an overdose, j gave me an ultimatum. if I didn’t stop harming myself, she would quit seeing me. she knew how much I needed her. she knew how much I relied on her. to do this was cruel. she knew I was attached to her and that i’d do anything she told me to do in order to keep her. so I stopped for a while. the pressure built up. I stopped though, I did not harm myself. I did it not for me but for her. I was terrified of losing her support. now I know she was wrong. she was the professional. she should have never given me that ultimatum. she should instead have helped me to work through my feelings, work through why it was that I was harming myself so often. not pressured me into stopping when I really wasn’t ready to give it up yet.

12 responses to “#JusJoJan january 14th daily prompt”

  1. BeckiesMentalMess.wordpress.com Avatar

    I had to change therapist once, only because my old one only wanted to discuss “Triggers” with me. I hadn’t wanted another drink ever again, but that was the only subject matter she wanted to get into with me. Finally, I had to advocate, and request a new therapist, and I am so happy I did. I no longer get anxiety before seeing the new therapist. 🙂

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    1. manyofus1980 Avatar

      I hate when they have their own agenda! Its not right that they would do that. I’m glad the new one is working out for you. ❤

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      1. BeckiesMentalMess.wordpress.com Avatar

        You must always advocate for yourself, until you find the perfect fit for you. 🙂

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      2. manyofus1980 Avatar

        Agreed! Advocating for yourself is so important! xx

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    BuzzCut

    I wouldn’t say I ‘like’ the post – that was horrible but…you wrote about it and that was good.

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    1. manyofus1980 Avatar

      Yes, it was pretty awful, but I am glad I was able to write about it. xx

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        BuzzCut

        that’s why I write but the ‘harder’ stuff is more private…until I get more brave.

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      2. manyofus1980 Avatar

        Yeah, its hard to put yourself out there, its such a risk…

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  3. Paula Light Avatar
    Paula Light

    I hope you found someone more supportive.

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    1. manyofus1980 Avatar

      Oh I did, thanks. I have a wonderful therapist now. xox

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  4. violaetcetera Avatar
    violaetcetera

    I think this is the worst way a therapist can deal with self harm, it just puts more pressure on you without offering new coping skills. Good thing you finally found Eileen!

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    1. manyofus1980 Avatar

      Yes! Agreed! Eileen is an amazing fit for us. We feel so lucky to have found her!

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