Asking for help

Do you easily ask for (and accept) help, when you need it?

My answer?
No. I am not good at asking for help when I need it. Usually I’m in crisis before I reach out.
Not good I know, but that is me. It is how I am. I get scared, I get anxious, and then I don’t ask for the help when I desperately need it.

28 responses to “Asking for help”

  1. Kay Avatar

    I have the same issue, unless I’m in so much pain that I can’t make any progress… not good, I know. I’m with ya! But… one of the byproducts of people showing you that you’re better off doing it yourself and/or not relying on others.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Yeah, I hear ya, definitely sometimes you’re better off doing it yourself 😆❤️

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      1. Kay Avatar

        Sometimes! LOL! Asking for help isn’t a bad thing, just… sometimes help isn’t helpful

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      2. Carol anne Avatar

        Or you can say that again, definitely that’s true xx

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  2. willowdot21 Avatar

    you are not alone 🤗🤗🤗

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Glad I’m not alone 🙂

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      1. willowdot21 Avatar

        Your not 💜💜

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      2. Carol anne Avatar

        😘😘😘

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  3. Mister Bump UK Avatar

    I think also, we get let down by people so much that we don’t want to rely on them.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Yes, that’s true Pete I agree 💞💞

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  4. destiny Avatar

    …but those times that you get it right by yourself…most rewarding right 😉

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Yes, definitely rewarding destiny 😜😆

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  5. Heartland Echoes Avatar

    Carol Anne–You are certainly not alone in this aspect. I too have difficulty reaching out as well when I need help. Only for the simple fact that I have been rejected, one too many times and I have felt as if my voice isn’t being heard. But like I’ve previously told you, you and I have faced the inevitable fate of trauma and abuse–we both know exactly how it feels to feel alone and not being heard. You know you can always reach out to me on messenger or email. To make it through these dark times and the chaos of this world, we mustn’t fight these battles alone. I got you. 🤗💕 I am only a short message or email away.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Thank you so much, Jenny. I really appreciate your kindness and your offer. It means the world to me. 😁😁🩷🩷

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      1. Heartland Echoes Avatar

        You are most welcome sweetheart 🥰🤗💕 That is what friends are for.

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      2. Carol anne Avatar

        And I am glad to call you, my friend Jenny 😁

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      3. Heartland Echoes Avatar

        Awwww! Thank you 🥰 I feel so special. I am also blessed to heave such a warm hearted, good spirited, loving, caring, kind, compassionate, Friend such as yourself, from all the way around the world.

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      4. Carol anne Avatar

        Yes! It is cool we get to connect and from across the ocean! Loving it!

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  6. Lauren Scott, Author Avatar

    As I get older, it’s easier to ask for help. Maybe with age comes a little wisdom. So if you need to, Carol Anne, don’t be afraid to ask…Hugs 🌷

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      I’m working hard at being able to ask when I need to 💛💛

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  7. Nicole Smith Avatar

    I am the same way, I never make a peep until I’m rolling in the deep.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Isn’t it awful that we have to be this way? It’s just something that we were taught growing up. 💜💜💜

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  8. hitandrun1964 Avatar

    I don’t ask for help either.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      It’s something I’m working on fear holds me back, but I’m trying to work through it 😍😍

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      1. hitandrun1964 Avatar

        It’s a difficult thing to overcome, if you are that kind of person. Keep working on it. I’ve given up but you’re younger and have a chance. LOL I was taught not to ask, so it’s hard to overcome that.

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      2. Carol anne Avatar

        I will, thank you, I appreciate you,X

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  9. Julie Sheppard aka Reiko Chinen Avatar

    I’ve also had difficulty asking for help. Pride, fear and a number of other reasons has kept me from asking for help when I’ve needed it.

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    1. Carol anne Avatar

      Same story for me, Julie 🌷🌷

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