Tag: longterm therapy

Dr. barry and me had a very honest conversation this afternoon. I needed to tell her that the last time we talked, which was a month ago now, she’d hurt my feelings by some things she said during our conversation.
I told her that when we were talking about therapy and longterm therapy and when she said that therapy cant go on forever and it isnt healthy that she made me feel as if I was totally dependent on Eileen, which I know I am to a degree, but I dont feel I’m totally reliant on her.
I talked with eileen about this and she said no, I am not. I dont need her to make decisions for me, I do depend on her for support, but eileen said dr. barry and her have different opinions on things, that she comes from things as a psychiatrist, where as eileen comes from things as a trauma therapist.
Eileen said we need to have the attachment with her in order for therapy to work. I agree.
Dr. Barry said today that I am very dependent on eileen, and I told her yes, to a degree, I need her, she is my support system, and I am not ashamed that I need her, I feel I am progressing, so what if I am attached, and depend on eileen to soothe me make things ok when they arent.
When I told Dr. barry that my feelings were hurt by her she apologised, which was good of her, I appreciated that she heard me and apologised to me. I told her she’s entitled to her opinion, and I am not trying to disuade her from her own opinion but that I dont have to agree with her about it.
She said she felt the last time we talked, that it was a tough conversation, and she thought I’d be upset afterwords. She said, Carol anne, I admire your honesty, you didnt let things go, if you did they’ve have festered, you came to me even though it was a month later, and we could talk and work things out.
I said well, I know your not one to shy away from tough conversations, neither am I. I wanted to be honest with you and tell you how it was for me.
She said she appreciated my honesty and that is the core of our relationship. I knew I could tell her, talk to her, I know she’d listen to me, so thats why I wasnt afraid to speak up.