Book review:A long way from home by Cathy glass

So I just finished the book a long way from home by Cathy Glass. A wonderful read. Different from most of her other foster care memoirs, this is Annas story. A story about a little girl adopted from an orphanage who came into foster care after being diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder and when her behaviour became unmanageable for her parents.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was a poignant read. Deeply moving, very sad in places, but also full of hope.
The summary for the book follows.

The true story of two-year-old Anna, abandoned by her natural parents, left alone in a neglected orphanage.

Elaine and Ian had travelled halfway round the world to adopt little Anna. She couldn’t have been more wanted, loved and cherished. So why was she now in foster care and living with me? It didn’t make sense.

Until I learned what had happened…

Dressed only in nappies and ragged T-shirts, the children were incarcerated in their cots. Their large eyes stared out blankly from emaciated faces. Some were obviously disabled, others not, but all were badly undernourished. Flies circled around the broken ceiling fans and buzzed against the grids covering the windows. The only toys were a few balls and a handful of building bricks, but no child played with them. The silence was deafening and unnatural. Not one of the 30 or so infants cried, let alone spoke.

This book can be gotten from audible, its also available on kindle. and in paperback. It is Cathy glass’s latest foster care memoir.

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Calling my social worker

so I need to phone mary today. I’ve had a week to think about what she can help me with.

 

I think i’ll ask her to help me with getting some equipment, adaptive equipment, to help me around the house, and I will also ask her to help me to get some stuff done around my home. I want to get my garden slabbed, and I also want to try to get a porch door, a patio door.

 

hoping she is able to help me with this stuff.  she did say she cant promise, but she said all we can do is ask people and all they can do is say yes or no…hoping its  a yes…

 

 

Meeting our new social worker, Mary

This morning we met our new social worker, Mary.
It went really well. Dr. barry was with us when we made introductions.
Mary was really nice. She is very warm and very kind.
I think we will work well together.
I, Carol anne was the one who met her. I was really nervous meeting her. I was so glad dr. barry was with me.
Dr. Barry introduced me as carol anne. But Mary said hi Shirley when she walked in and shook my hand. Luckily though Dr. barry told her she’d only ever met Shirley twice and that it would be me Carol anne, or Liz that she’d be dealing with.
She seemed to accept this and she seemed ok with it.
Dr. barry told her how I and Liz had built up a great relationship with Karen, the last social worker on the team and how it was a huge deal for us when she left.
And still is. We’re still finding it hard to get our heads around the fact that Karen is really gone.
Mary made a joke about having big shoes to fill, and she said that everyone she’s worked with so far really liked Karen and said she was an amazing social worker, which she was.
Dr. barry started telling her about us, and about the things we’re currently doing, like volunteering, doing a college course in addiction studies, working on the ILS course…and Mary was like, Carol anne, how do you fit all of that into a week?
Lol I had to laugh then because, like, I dunno! But I do!
I think she was impressed with all of the things we are doing right now!
She gave me her phone number and told me to have a think about what I’d like to work with her on and then to call her and we’d connect and have a chat about it.
I agreed to this. I feel confident that we can make a good team and have a good working relationship. Not sure about how we’ll attach to her but its early days yet.
When she left the room, dr. barry kept asking me if I was ok. I told her I was mentally comparing Mary to karen already in my head. She said this was normal and that although Mary is different to Karen in many ways, that she’s lovely and a good social worker. I agree I think she is.

New social woker

so next week I’ll be starting with a new social worker. for those of you who remember her, I used to have Karen r, she was the social worker on dr. barrys team but she left last august to go to a new job. she got promoted. she was a fantastic social worker, the best I’ve ever had.
this new girl, her name is mary. and i havent met her yet. dr. barry is going to introduce us next week. she already made a referral to mary for me but she told mary not to call me, to wait until I was seeing her so she could introduce us.
i’m so nervous about meeting her. not sure what to expect. wondering, if she’ll be nice? good at her job? friendly? approachable?
I hope she’ll be understanding about the did. i think though she probably will, since dr. barry will be introducing us and will fill her in on our diagnosis.
still I’m very nervous about it all. I hate meeting new people. I get so anxious. I hope it will go well. Fingers crossed.

Book review-too young to be a mum, by maggie hartley

Too Young to Be a Mum

Can Jess learn to be a good mummy when she is only a child herself?

Summary

When 16-year-old Jess arrives on foster carer Maggie Hartley’s doorstep with her newborn son, Jimmy, she has nowhere else to go. Arriving straight from the hospital, having just given birth, Jess is like a rabbit caught in the headlights. Scared, alone, and practically a child herself, she is overwhelmed with the responsibility of caring for a newborn without the support of a loving family or her beloved boyfriend.

With social services threatening to take baby Jimmy into care, Jess knows that Maggie is her only chance of keeping her son. Maggie can see that Jess loves her boyfriend and wants to be a good mother to her son. Can Maggie help Jess learn to become a mum? Will the family ever be allowed to live together?

My thoughts…

I really enjoyed this book. I thought the reader of the audio book did a really great job and I liked her style and how she read. The book is fast paced and kept me interested. I love all foster care memoirs, and this one doesnt disappoint. I would highly recommend it.

Audible book link
https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Biographies-Memoirs/Too-Young-to-Be-a-Mum-Audiobook/B072RDZZ3L?ref=a_a_search_c3_lProduct_1_4&pf_rd_p=c6e316b8-14da-418d-8f91-

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Goodbye again, karen

Your leaving today. I’ll miss you. If I could tell you one thing now it would be I am forever grateful that you came into my life and were a part of it for four years. Thank you for being you. I will love you forever. You taught me how to trust. You made me feel safe. You showed me there really are professionals out there who lov their job, who care about their patients, who do all they can to connect and engage with their patients. You showed me how it feels to be cared about and you showed me what its like to feel love for someone. I will always love you. And I will never forget you ever. I hope your new job brings you much happiness. You deserved that promotion. You earned it. Today is a sad day for me. I’m happy for you that you got this job but sad because your leaving my life. Your memory will live on in my heart forever. Good luck in everything you do going forward.

carol anne

An emotional goodbye to karen

so we did it, we said goodbye to karen today, it was intense, and very very emotional.
Dr. Barry was with us when we said goodbye to her.
It went like this.

Dr. barry to me towards the end of our session, ok I’ll text karen and let her know we’re ready for her to come join us.
About 2 minutes later, Karen walks in.

Karen: “all bubbly” hey hey hey! How are you!
I think she knew I was a mess and feeling so anxious and sad.
me: Um, ok I guess? You?
Karen: Oh look you brought nitro too so he can say goodbye too! Thank you! Did you tell him I’m going? He’s being so adorable!
Me laughing, he loves you Karen.
She sat down then and we chit chatted for a few minutes, us, dr. barry and karen. Chit chatted about dogs, and her mothers dog, then she said is this carol anne?
I was like yeah it is!
Hey kid, hows it going! She always calls me kid its her pet name for me!
Oh karen, I wish you werent going! I really really wish it.
I know change is hard. But you can do this. I have faith in you. Wow, she has faith in me. So now I cant let her down! She is pulling for me to get through this.
we talked about us having sarah the cpn and Karen was like, well she’s not as nice as me but she’s still fab! We all laughed then. Karen to me tell her I said that it will give her a laugh!
I pulled out the card then and the letter and handed them to her. She read them and was all emotional. Thank you guys! These are beautiful. I will proudly display with pride the card on my desk, I still have the last one you made me on my desk.
Have you got plans for the rest of this week? Me, noooo. No plans. Only my pa will be coming over tomorrow, but other than that, nothing. Might go to the basement club on Friday if I feel up to it.
You should! I know you love it there!
Me starting to cry, oh karen, I’ll miss you! Its ok Carol anne, its ok to miss people isnt it? Dont be hard on yourself. Your having a normal reaction.
Its going to be hard for me too. A new job, new people. I dont know any of them and they dont know me. I am so nervous. I’d love to think I might come back here some day. I’ve been with this team for 9 years. me 9 years? Wow has it been that long? Yep, she said. I am the longest serving member of the team.
Then it was time to finish up. Karen to me? Will I walk you out? me, ok, but can I give you a hug first? Of course you can, she came over and spread her arms wide, and I hugged her hard. Her long hair trailing down her back, its as long as mine.
I love you karen and no other social worker will ever replace you nobody will ever be as good as you.
karen, well as long as the new girl isnt boring…
Me: she’s gonna be inexperienced I’m sure.
Karen laughing: You’d get over the inexperience if she’s trying, but if she’s boring, there is nothing worse than boring.
me giggling, your a hoot karen, you really are.
We walked to the desk together and dr barry walked behind us. I made an appointment for two weeks time to see dr. barry. She’s on holiday next week.
I said goodbye again to karen with tears in my eyes, and then I said goodbye to dr. barry who gently patted my arm, and told me to take care of myself and she’d see me in two weeks. I told her to have a nice holiday and quickly walked outside.
I did it. I said goodbye, and managed somehow. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I did it. I’m proud.
carol anne