Book review-battered, broken, healed by Maggie Hartley

Just finished another amazing fostering memoir by Maggie Hartley. I have to say I couldnt put it down. The book was so addictive, a page turner from beginning to end.
The book summary is below…

When six-week-old Jasmine is placed with foster carer Maggie Hartley, Maggie is delighted to have a baby in the house again. Jasmine has been taken into care over fears for her safety after the police are called to the family’s home several times following her birth. Her mother, Hailey, vehemently denies that anything is wrong, however, and social services allow her to have daily supervised visits with Jasmine.

Baby Jasmine is a joy to be around, but Maggie suspects that all is not quite as it seems with her mum. Maggie struggles to draw timid and extremely quiet Hailey out of her shell and fears that she may be suffering with postnatal depression.

Then one day Hailey arrives for the contact session with her hair streaked with blood and her body covered in bruises. Breaking down, a terrified Hailey admits that she is being abused by her violent husband and is too afraid to leave him.

Maggie realises that the only way mother and daughter will be reunited is if Hailey admits what’s going on behind closed doors and leaves her husband. But after years of physical and psychological abuse, that’s easier said than done….

Like i said this book is an incredible read. You wont be disappointed if you pick it up. Its available in paperback, in audio from audible and on kindle.

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THE MEETING WITH MARY

SO OUR MEETING WITH MARY WENT WELL.

SHE WAS NICE. I GOT ALONG JUST FINE WITH HER.

SHE RANG THE PLACE THAT IS SUPPLYING THE FUNDING. WE HAD A LONG TALK TO THEM. SHE PUT THE PHONE ON LOUD SPEAKER. AND WE WERE ABLE TO GET ALL THE INFO WE NEEDED TO PROCEED WITH THE APPLICATION.

THEY ARE TRYING TO SAY I ALREADY GOT 10 THOUSAND EUROS FROM THEM. FOR WHAT I AM NOT SURE. I KNOW I GOT MONEY FOR TAXI’S TO TAKE ME TO MEDICAL APTS. I ALSO GOT A CCTV UNIT FOR MY HOUSE. OTHER THAN THAT I DID NOT GET ANYTHING ELSE. TO MY KNOWLEDGE THAT COMES TO 5000 EURO. THE CAP IS 15 THOUSAND.

THE GUY ON THE PHONE SAID TO PUT QUOTATIONS IN AND ONCE MY NAME COMES UP AN ADVISOR WILL BE ASSIGNED TO ME. THEN THEY’LL EITHER APPROVE OR DENY MY APPLICATION.

I WANTED TO TALK TO MARY ABOUT APPLYING FOR MORE PA HOURS BUT WE DIDNT HAVE TIME AS THE CALL TO THE FUNDING PLACE WENT ON FOR AGES. SO I’LL HAVE TO RING HER IN A WEEK OR TWO AND MAKE ANOTHER APPOINTMENT TO MEET HER AGAIN TO GO THROUGH THAT.

SHE WAS REALLY NICE THOUGH. SHE PUT US AT EASY REALLY QUICKLY. SHE WAS CHATTY AND VERY FRIENDLY. I LIKED THE WAY SHE TRIED TO CHAT TO US TO PUT US AT EASE.

SHE CALLED US CAROL ANNE TOO WHICH WAS NICE. AND WHEN WE CALLED THE FUNDING PLACE WE TOLD HER WE’D HAVE TO GO BY OUR BIRTH WITH THEM NAME AND SHE WAS OK WITH THAT AS WELL.

OVERALL IT WAS A GOOD MEETING. I NEEDNT HAVE BEEN WORRIED. NO SHE’S NOT KAREN, BUT I THINK I CAN LEARN TO LIKE HER.
LIZ

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Book review: Too young to be a mum by Maggie Hartley

I just finished an amazing foster care memoir. It was called too young to be a mum and is written by UK foster parent Maggie hartley.

The book description is below.

Fifteen-year-old Jess arrives at the home of foster mother Maggie Hartley straight from the hospital where she’s given birth to her son, Jimmy. Scared and alone, Jess is like a rabbit caught in the headlights. Unable to live with her own mother, a prostitute, and removed from the home of her childhood sweetheart, Darren, Jess is overwhelmed by the responsibility of caring for a newborn whilst still little more than a child herself.

Maggie knows that Jess is desperate to reunite with Darren and to be a good mum to their son. Can Maggie help Jess keep her baby, and will the family ever be able to live together again?

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This book is a fantastic read. I highly recommend it. There are lots of twists and turns, and its definitely a page turner.

I laughed, and I cried during this book.

You wont be disappointed, I can promise you that. If you’ve never read a foster care memoir this one by Maggie hartley is really excellent.

You can get this book from audible, on kindle, or in paperback from all good book stores.

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appointment with my new social worker

today i called our social worker and i made an appointment with her for next friday at 11:30. her name is mary. im needing help with a couple of things. mainly i need help applying for more pa hours. i also need help with applying for a funeral grant from a local organisation who give funding to abuse survivors, i know im still young but this grant is to pay for funeral expenses so that if anything happens and you died unexpectedly your family wouldnt be left with the bill. i’m entitled to it so i might as well apply for the funding. i also want her to help me apply for funding so that i can get my back yard slabbed. mom has COPD and she wont be able to continue cutting the grass, so i will need the slabbing done, otherwise someone will have to come in and cut my grass and i will have to pay them to do it, so in th e long run its better. i’m in a bit of a rush to apply for this stuff, because the cut off date is august. after that there wont be any more funding available. so hopefully she can help me out. i miss my old social worker karen still. but i guess i have to give mary a chance to prove herself. its just karen was so competent and awesome at her job. i miss her tons. im sure mary will be nice too though. we’ll see. all i can do is try and see how things go.
carol anne

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Book review:A long way from home by Cathy glass

So I just finished the book a long way from home by Cathy Glass. A wonderful read. Different from most of her other foster care memoirs, this is Annas story. A story about a little girl adopted from an orphanage who came into foster care after being diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder and when her behaviour became unmanageable for her parents.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was a poignant read. Deeply moving, very sad in places, but also full of hope.
The summary for the book follows.

The true story of two-year-old Anna, abandoned by her natural parents, left alone in a neglected orphanage.

Elaine and Ian had travelled halfway round the world to adopt little Anna. She couldn’t have been more wanted, loved and cherished. So why was she now in foster care and living with me? It didn’t make sense.

Until I learned what had happened…

Dressed only in nappies and ragged T-shirts, the children were incarcerated in their cots. Their large eyes stared out blankly from emaciated faces. Some were obviously disabled, others not, but all were badly undernourished. Flies circled around the broken ceiling fans and buzzed against the grids covering the windows. The only toys were a few balls and a handful of building bricks, but no child played with them. The silence was deafening and unnatural. Not one of the 30 or so infants cried, let alone spoke.

This book can be gotten from audible, its also available on kindle. and in paperback. It is Cathy glass’s latest foster care memoir.

Calling my social worker

so I need to phone mary today. I’ve had a week to think about what she can help me with.

 

I think i’ll ask her to help me with getting some equipment, adaptive equipment, to help me around the house, and I will also ask her to help me to get some stuff done around my home. I want to get my garden slabbed, and I also want to try to get a porch door, a patio door.

 

hoping she is able to help me with this stuff.  she did say she cant promise, but she said all we can do is ask people and all they can do is say yes or no…hoping its  a yes…

 

 

Meeting our new social worker, Mary

This morning we met our new social worker, Mary.
It went really well. Dr. barry was with us when we made introductions.
Mary was really nice. She is very warm and very kind.
I think we will work well together.
I, Carol anne was the one who met her. I was really nervous meeting her. I was so glad dr. barry was with me.
Dr. Barry introduced me as carol anne. But Mary said hi Shirley when she walked in and shook my hand. Luckily though Dr. barry told her she’d only ever met Shirley twice and that it would be me Carol anne, or Liz that she’d be dealing with.
She seemed to accept this and she seemed ok with it.
Dr. barry told her how I and Liz had built up a great relationship with Karen, the last social worker on the team and how it was a huge deal for us when she left.
And still is. We’re still finding it hard to get our heads around the fact that Karen is really gone.
Mary made a joke about having big shoes to fill, and she said that everyone she’s worked with so far really liked Karen and said she was an amazing social worker, which she was.
Dr. barry started telling her about us, and about the things we’re currently doing, like volunteering, doing a college course in addiction studies, working on the ILS course…and Mary was like, Carol anne, how do you fit all of that into a week?
Lol I had to laugh then because, like, I dunno! But I do!
I think she was impressed with all of the things we are doing right now!
She gave me her phone number and told me to have a think about what I’d like to work with her on and then to call her and we’d connect and have a chat about it.
I agreed to this. I feel confident that we can make a good team and have a good working relationship. Not sure about how we’ll attach to her but its early days yet.
When she left the room, dr. barry kept asking me if I was ok. I told her I was mentally comparing Mary to karen already in my head. She said this was normal and that although Mary is different to Karen in many ways, that she’s lovely and a good social worker. I agree I think she is.