Harmless things that people heard as kids that effect their mental health today

‘Harmless’ Things People Heard as Kids That Affect Their Mental Health | The Mighty

https://themighty.com/2018/02/harmful-abusive-comments-parents-teachers-make-to-kids/?utm_source=newsletter_mental-health&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsletter_mental-health_2018-02-09

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Book review-too young to be a mum, by maggie hartley

Too Young to Be a Mum

Can Jess learn to be a good mummy when she is only a child herself?

Summary

When 16-year-old Jess arrives on foster carer Maggie Hartley’s doorstep with her newborn son, Jimmy, she has nowhere else to go. Arriving straight from the hospital, having just given birth, Jess is like a rabbit caught in the headlights. Scared, alone, and practically a child herself, she is overwhelmed with the responsibility of caring for a newborn without the support of a loving family or her beloved boyfriend.

With social services threatening to take baby Jimmy into care, Jess knows that Maggie is her only chance of keeping her son. Maggie can see that Jess loves her boyfriend and wants to be a good mother to her son. Can Maggie help Jess learn to become a mum? Will the family ever be allowed to live together?

My thoughts…

I really enjoyed this book. I thought the reader of the audio book did a really great job and I liked her style and how she read. The book is fast paced and kept me interested. I love all foster care memoirs, and this one doesnt disappoint. I would highly recommend it.

Audible book link
https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Biographies-Memoirs/Too-Young-to-Be-a-Mum-Audiobook/B072RDZZ3L?ref=a_a_search_c3_lProduct_1_4&pf_rd_p=c6e316b8-14da-418d-8f91-

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Get to know us. Whose who?

Whose in your immediate family?

so in my family there is myself, mom and dad, and I have one sister, named laura. my sister is 28, and I am almost 38.

my mom had me when she was 17, she is 55 now. my dad is 65.

I have one niece and one nephew, davin is my nephew, he’s five, and lauren is my niece, she’s almost 10.

My sister has a partner named davin senior. They are engaged…dont know though when they are getting married.

carol anne

New years eve eve

and i cant believe it. one more day till its 2018. it doesnt feel like it. well it does, kinda. what i mean to say is, this year flew by.

there has been many ups and downs this year. dad getting ill. moms health scare. my did reassessment. starting the ILS course. Starting my addictions course. And those are just a few of them.

i am looking forward to starting the new year, and i hope it will be a good one. i plan on making it good. i havent written any resolutions yet. i am hoping to do it tomorrow at some point.

we’re having a big family dinner tomorrow. my sis and her partner and kids will come over, and my dads brother is coming, he’s in a nursing home but he’s getting to come to my parents house for the day tomorrow. we’ll have dinner and then tomorrow night i’ll ring in the new year with my parents. i’m sure the whole family will be texting one another as we always do on new years.

tonight mom went out for drinks with her two sisters and her brother. she asked me to come but i said i wouldnt. i figured I’d let them spend time with just each other.

i sat and watch tv with my dad. my dads been hard to be around lately because he’s not well and he takes it out on the rest of us that he’s not well. he gets agitated, and angry. he snaps at people. he says things like he doesnt want to be alive, and this is the worst christmas he has had. i know its because he’s sick that he says those things. but its hard to hear.

i hope all of you will have a good new years eve tomorrow. are any of you doing anything special to celebrate? or will you be alone for it? whatever you do I want you to know I wish you all a happy new year. I wish that 2018 will bring great things for you.
carol anne

Recipe-Fantastic beef fajitas

Fantastic Beef Fajitas
1 pound beef top sirloin or flank steak, trimmed and cut into 1/4 inch strips
5 tablespoons vegetable oil, divided
2 tablespoons lemon juice
1 teaspoon dried oregano
1 garlic clove, minced
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon pepper
1 medium sweet red pepper, cut into thin strips
1/2 medium onion, sliced
8 flour tortillas, warmed
2 ripe avocados, peeled and sliced
Salsa
Sour cream
In a large resealable plastic bag, combine 3 tablespoons oil, lemon juice, oregano, garlic, salt and pepper; add beef and toss to coat. Refrigerate for 3 hours, or overnight, turning occasionally. Remove meat and discard marinade. In a skillet, heat 1 tablespoon of oil. Saute red pepper and onion until crisp-tender; remove and set aside. Heat remaining oil; cook meat for 2 to 4 minutes, or until it reaches desired doneness. Return vegetables to pan; heat through. Place a spoonful of meat and vegetables on each tortilla. Top with avocado, salsa and sour cream; roll up.
Variation:
For an authentic bold flavor, add 1 teaspoon ground cumin to the marinade.
Makes 4 to 6 servings.

words hurt us

“i dont know why your being assessed”
“there is nothing wrong with you”
“your wasting peoples time and money”
“you are not sikck”
“you must love going to doctors”

all spoken by our dad. words hurt. my heart is empty and heavy. the grief is weighing heavily on my heart tonight.

i wanted mom to go to our assessment on friday. i wanted it so bad. i wanted her to go to support us.

but she said no. a firm no.

“why would i go”

“your being assessed, not me”
“I have no business being there”

“its pointless me going”

nothing about i know its hard so I’ll go to support you. it fucking hurts.

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run around tuesday

omg i have had the busiest of days! i literally havent stopped all day.

this morning we did digital media, the rest of the class are all way ahead of me, so this morning our tutor gave me a bunch of exercises to do so i could catch up to the rest of the class. i found them pretty easy, it was mostly common sense, very straightforward, all i had to do was read the notes and then answer questions on them.

after small break we cooked, we made vegetable soup and chicken caesar raps, i will post pics in a separate post. we ate the soup and raps for lunch, it was delicious. who knew butternut squash would be good in soup!

after lunch i went volunteering at cork city partnership. when i got there my supervisor was out of the office, and the girl i normally work alongside was out at a meeting, there were a couple other staff there but they were all busy, so i literally was on my own in reception for about an hour and a half. it was quiet though which was good. the only thing was it was so quiet that i was falling asleep, my eyes were literally closing and i was having a hard time concentrating.

trish, the girl who works alongside me came back at about 3:30 and she made me a coffee. she said i could go at 4:30 but i said i wouldnt, that i’d stay until 5 pm. we had a bit of a catch up over our coffees. then trish went to type up some minutes in another office and i stayed on the phones.

at 5 pm i went to mom and dads for dinner. i enjoyed dinner. i also had to change my outfit because i’d spilled all soup down the front of my top, because i am a disaster when it comes to food and spillages. after i’d eaten i was able to sit and relax for half an hour, talk to mom and dad and watch a little tv, before i had to get ready to leave again.

i had college tonight from 7 pm until 10 pm. the class tonight was so interesting. in our addictions module we learned how drugs effect the brain, the changes that occur in the brain when you take a substance, it was fascinating stuff.

the taxi was a couple of minutes late picking me up after class, but it was ok, the caretaker waited with me. when the taxi did finally pick me up he said he had passengers in his car who were drunk and wouldnt get out of the car. so at least he had a good excuse for being late.

now i’m back in abode, flat out exhausted, and wondering if i’ll be able to sleep tonight. i’ve taken my night meds, had a cup of tea and a yogurt, let nitro out, and now i’m sitting here on the couch surfing the net.

i’m happy with how my day has gone. tuesdays are long, but very productive