You remember my cousin who died this year of liver cancer? Her name was Alison. She was fifty remember?
Well her son was on remand, for a drugs charge, he’s 28. Well, found out today he got 7 years, I guess drugs charges are serious, I didnt think what he did was that bad, but then tonight my mom told me he was caught selling drugs, so yes, it is that bad.
I feel sad for him. Now he’ll be in prison until he is in his mid to late 30’s. I know it was his choice to sell drugs, but really there was more to it, he grew up in a part of london that is full of gangs, and so it was kinda a given he was going to do something like this. His life was mapped out for him.
Now he’s in prison, and also grieving the loss of his mom, who he was very close to.
I think when he does get out of there, he’ll be far worse off than he is now. He’ll probably be angry, and rebel or do something else, I think his life wont get any easier once his time in prison is done.
The family didnt need this devastation, his sister and grandparents and aunts and uncle all didnt need more on top of what their already dealing with. A sad sad situation for everyone involved.
Looks like I might not be going to the UK for my cousins funeral after all. Mom and me had a long talk, and we’ve decided that we may just not go. The reason is this. My aunt, thats our cousins mom, she called us yesterday, asked us to bring her over a bottle of vodka, she’s an alcoholic, but she has been off of the vodka for a while now. She knows we’re coming, and now she’s asked us to buy it for her, saying she is going to find the funeral hard to cope with. The thing is her husband doesnt know she’s asked us. She waited until he was out to ring us. Thats because she knows he wouldnt be at all pleased. If he knew she’d done this there would be trouble. Mom and me dont want to go over there and end up looking disrespectful, or look bad because we’ve brought it to her. Her daughters and son would be so angry, and rightly so. We dont want to do this at all. Mom doesnt want to tell her that we dont want to do it though. She is scared I think. Scared of what she’ll say to us. So mom has decided that if we dont go, she’ll just tell her that she’s ill and we cant come. I know its hiding the truth, and it would be better if we could tell the truth, and say she’s put us under pressure, but we just dont feel able to do it. We havent fully decided yet, but by tomorrow we will decide one way or the other. We’ve already booked our flights, so we’re going to lose that money if we dont go. We really cant go with this hanging over us though. What if she had it and drinks it on the day of the funeral like she’s planning to do. She’ll be drunk, and when she’s drunk she’s not very nice. The fact that she hasnt had any vodka in a while, means it will go to her head quicker. We dont want her husband to be mad at us. Or say we’re disrespecting his dead daughter, by bringing alcohol to his wife. So its best we just dont go. Sad to have to do it but its necessary. Definitely now its looking likely that we wont be going. But if we do decide to go, we’ll just not take any alcohol to her, I am pretty sure though mom doesnt want to have that confrontation with my aunt. Mom hates conflict of any kind. She’d rather avoid it if possible. If we dont end up going, I’ll just think of my cousin alison on Monday morning, at the time her funeral is on. Maybe I can light a candle for her or something to show her I’m thinking of her and I can also say prayers for her.