WELL OUR AUNT IS NOT THAT DRUNK, TIPSY YES, BUT NOT OVERLY DRUNK. SHE HAS BEEN DRINKING THE VODKA SHE BOUGHT. BUT SHE’S ALSO BEEN EATING, WE HAD DINNER, SO THAT HELPED. SHE’S IN THE SHOWER NOW. AND SHE SEEMS FINE. SHE IS NOT TALKING SHIT OR BEING WEIRD OF RUDE OR ANYTHING. I’M SO GLAD. I’M GLAD SHE SEEMS OK. WE HAVE BEEN TAKING BREAKS FROM THE FAMILY ALL DAY, EVERY SO OFTEN WE GO OUT OF THE ROOM AND UPSTAIRS TO THE BEDROOM TO READ, OR WE GO ON OUR LAPTOP, OR CALL A FRIEND, IT IS HELPFUL TO BE ABLE TO DO THAT. IT HAS SAVED OUR SANITY. WE HAVENT DRANK AT ALL DURING THE TRIP. OUR MOM WAS JUST UP HERE WITH US, SHE WAS PACKING UP OUR CASE TO GO HOME TOMORROW, WE’LL BE LEAVING THE HOUSE AT AROUND 1ISH TO GO TO THE AIRPORT. I HOPE MY AUNTS HUSBAND DOESNT SUSPECT ANYTHING IS UP WITH HER. SHE’S BEEN MIXING THE VODKA WITH COKE SO THAT IS HELPING. NORMALLY SHE’D DRINK IT RAW AND STRAIGHT WITH NOTHING IN IT. THE FACT SHE’S MIXING IT IS GOOD, AS THERE IS LESS OF IT IN THE BOTTLE. IF HE FIGURES OUT SHE HAS IT THERE WILL BE WORLD WAR 3. HE HATES HER DRINKING VODKA, SHE ISNT REALLY ALLOWED IT IN THE HOUSE AT ALL. SO ALL IS WELL AND WE’RE OK SO THATS THE UPDATE ON THINGS.
Well guys, it has happened. My aunt got herself a bottle vodka. She did it, despite us not getting it for her. Despite us not bringing it, she still managed to get some.
She went out to the local store. In the pouring rain. Thats how desperate she was. She had to have it. She walked there in the lashings of rain.
Her husband doesnt know. He’s out at the moment. He’s gone to pick up his car. He has no idea she did it. She has warned me not to say anything to him. My mom had to go with her, well she didnt have to, but she did. She felt obligated.
Now this is where things might be rough. If she drinks all of it, the whole bottle, which she will, she’s going to be drunk and things could get ugly.
I just hope that they wont. I feel bad for my mom and me that we’re stuck in the middle. If her husband finds out she did this he might be really mad.
Oh well. We cant do anything about it now. She has it and she’s going to drink it no matter what we say or do. She is an alcoholic after all. Old habits die hard.
so i did it, i rang my aunt. mom asked me to do it as she felt unable to do it herself. i rang, and i told her we couldnt bring her any vodka, i told her that we were only checking in one bag, and we werent allowed to bring it on bord the plane.
she tried to tell me I could just buy it on bord, but I quickly told her we couldnt, that there is no more duty free now when you travel from ireland to the UK. I dont know if thats completely true or not, but I just told her that, just so she’d leave it be about the alcohol.
And she did. She didnt pressure us, she said it was fine, and she’d have to do without it.
She said she’s not coping. She said she’s suffering badly. Our cousins body is now in the funeral parlour, on respose. Our aunt said her husband and daughters went today to see her, but she didnt go as she felt unable to see her lying there in the funeral parlour.
She seems ok with the fact we arent going to do what she asked. mom said she was probably chancing her arm in asking us, as she knows she’s not allowed it in the house and if her husband knew there’d be war. he’d have a fit. she knows this and she probably thought with what happened and her daughters death that we’d just cave in and do what she asked.
i’m glad we sorted it now. we were both feeling weird about being there. just because she’d done this. now i feel much more at eas. i feel happier about going now. i feel like things will go off ok.
Looks like I might not be going to the UK for my cousins funeral after all. Mom and me had a long talk, and we’ve decided that we may just not go. The reason is this. My aunt, thats our cousins mom, she called us yesterday, asked us to bring her over a bottle of vodka, she’s an alcoholic, but she has been off of the vodka for a while now. She knows we’re coming, and now she’s asked us to buy it for her, saying she is going to find the funeral hard to cope with. The thing is her husband doesnt know she’s asked us. She waited until he was out to ring us. Thats because she knows he wouldnt be at all pleased. If he knew she’d done this there would be trouble. Mom and me dont want to go over there and end up looking disrespectful, or look bad because we’ve brought it to her. Her daughters and son would be so angry, and rightly so. We dont want to do this at all. Mom doesnt want to tell her that we dont want to do it though. She is scared I think. Scared of what she’ll say to us. So mom has decided that if we dont go, she’ll just tell her that she’s ill and we cant come. I know its hiding the truth, and it would be better if we could tell the truth, and say she’s put us under pressure, but we just dont feel able to do it. We havent fully decided yet, but by tomorrow we will decide one way or the other. We’ve already booked our flights, so we’re going to lose that money if we dont go. We really cant go with this hanging over us though. What if she had it and drinks it on the day of the funeral like she’s planning to do. She’ll be drunk, and when she’s drunk she’s not very nice. The fact that she hasnt had any vodka in a while, means it will go to her head quicker. We dont want her husband to be mad at us. Or say we’re disrespecting his dead daughter, by bringing alcohol to his wife. So its best we just dont go. Sad to have to do it but its necessary. Definitely now its looking likely that we wont be going. But if we do decide to go, we’ll just not take any alcohol to her, I am pretty sure though mom doesnt want to have that confrontation with my aunt. Mom hates conflict of any kind. She’d rather avoid it if possible. If we dont end up going, I’ll just think of my cousin alison on Monday morning, at the time her funeral is on. Maybe I can light a candle for her or something to show her I’m thinking of her and I can also say prayers for her.
well guys, bad news, more bad news.
my supervisor told me today on the drive to the office that another client died. His name was daniel. He was in his 80’s. He was one of my regular callers. He was such a kind, gentle man. A very genuine warm kind caring person.
We arent sure what exactly happened to him. I talked to him last Tuesday afternoon, and then I couldnt get through to him on friday, but it turns out that by then he was already dead, we just didnt know it yet. My supervisor went on rip.ie which is a site where you can find out whose died. She saw his name on there.
I am heartbroken as I knew this guy really well. I am saddened at his loss. I will really miss him. He always made me laugh, and I looked forward to our chats every week.
We’ve lost four of our clients in the space of 2 or 3 weeks now. Its so sad. I really hope we dont lose anyone else. I really feel unable to handle any more loss. I am struggling as it is. I am really finding it difficult to come to terms with all these losses.
If you pray, please pray. If not, send good vibes thoughts to me. I really need them right now. I just hope all of the clients who died lately are now at peace.
Yesterday afternoon I went volunteering, as i normally do. My supervisor picked me up. On the way there, she gave me some bad news. Actually it wasnt just bad news, it was quite shocking.
She told me that one of our clients had died. She was 72 years old. She died last Thursday evening, what had happened was, on Friday afternoon I had tried to call her and I didnt get through to her. So I told my supervisor that I didnt manage to get through. My supervisor thought she might be sleeping as she did that sometimes in the afternoon. So we thought no more of it and we said we’d try again on Monday.
On Saturday morning my supervisor was at home and she had to look up a website about funeral arrangements for a family member. She scrolled to the section for cork, and there before her eyes, the clients name appeared. Of course she was immediately in shock. She immediately called the clients next of kin to see what had happened to her.
What happened is quite morbid, but I will tell you anyway. On thursday evening the client fell down the stairs, backwards. She lay there on the floor all night, we arent sure if she was killed upon falling, or if she lay there for a while still alive. On friday morning, a passer by saw some blood coming out from under her door, and they called the police, and when the police went there they found her dead.
Of course we’re all in shock. She’d been a client of friendly call for the past 8 years. My supervisor took it really hard as she’d been visiting her one to one for a while as well as having her be on the phone service. I’m actually also in shock myself about it. The fact of how it happened, it is very disturbing to me.
You just really never know from day to day what is going to happen to you do you? I mean we talked to her on Thursday, she was fine, then this happened to her that night. Its very disturbing. She had a lot of serious mental health issues, and she was very hard work, but despite all that, none of us wanted anything like this to happen to her. Its just awful. So that was what I faced yesterday. I wasnt ok for the entire afternoon after hearing it. It really effected me deeply.
I’m a little bit better today. After a long chat about it to dr. barry I feel much better. I am reminded though of just how precious life really is. And also of how my work can and does really impact me on a deep level. I love my work, but I hate losing clients, and this is the second client who I’ve lost in the space of 2 months.