I found out about an hour ago that my gran aunt, who is my dads aunt, his moms sister, passed away.
She had COPD, and she was on oxygen 24 7, she recently got pneumonia, and she was hospitalised and she just never recovered from it.
She was 79 years old. She died last night in the hospital.
Please if you could send healing energy, thoughts and prayers to my family, I’d really appreciate it.
Its hard for her family with it being so close to christmas. Christmas is never a good time to lose someone. But then again, no time is ever a good time.
My sister works as a health care assistant. She works about 20 hours a week. She’s been doing this job for about 2 years now.
Recently one of her long term clients died. The lady had MS. My sister worked for her and her husband, her husband died a year ago from a brain tumour.
So now that this lady died, my sister is down about 6 hours a week, plus also, another one of her clients she goes to on Friday mornings is on holidays for the past two weeks, so she’s down those hours also.
Its coming up to Christmas, she needs money, so she’s hoping to get given a few extra hours but that can only happen if the right shifts come in. She can only work certain hours due to her kids going to school etc etc.
I really feel for her. After her client died last week, she went to the funeral to show her respect. My sister has a really kind heart and this shines through in her work every day.
numbness sets in
can I feel?
No it all feels too real
Why oh why?
do I feel
Like I am going to die?
Found out today at work another of my clients is dying. He has cancer. He only found out last Monday. He’s been in hospital for a while now having tests. He’s almost 80 years old.
I felt very sad for him. He’s had no quality of life now for a while. He’s been really ill, and he’s had a few falls also. He’s been in and out of hospital for a good few months now.
My supervisor said she was taking him off of our service. She said he’s too sick to talk. So I never got to say goodbye. That was hard. I wished I could have said a final goodbye to him.
I guess this is the hard part about my job. Things happen suddenly. Clients get ill and die. And there really is no closure.
Remember a few days ago I told you my cousin christine had a baby? And we all thought everything was fine with them? Well it wasnt.
When the baby was born he looked ok. But he didnt make any sound. He cried I think at birth but then once in the ward afterwords he never made a sound, or moved. He had tiny ears, and he wasnt feeding properly.
The doctors came that evening, and looked him over. It turns out he has downs syndrome. He is also deaf. His ear canals arent developed properly.
His heart and lungs are very weak too. He’s gone to neonatal and is in an incubator now. We dont know if he’ll make it. We’re hoping he will but literally its hour to hour. He’s very very ill.
If you pray please pray he’ll pull through.
We’re all devastated. Its awful. How something as happy as the birth of a new baby can turn into heartache within hours. Its so so sad.
Please pray he’s going to make it. I know he’s badly disabled, but my cousin can deal with that. We just want him to live.
with the grieving
Death comes to us all
at some point
we cant avoid it
but I will commiserate
as I think
grief and dying
to those who are left behind
on their sad loss
such a sad day
is better off now
and he was loved
always remember that
Dedicated to the family of my dads best friend
#NDRW – #61
You remember some weeks back I told you that my dads friend, his best friend, was dying? And at the time he went to visit him? His friend had a huge tumour on his lung, it was inoperable. Well he died last night, at 2 AM this morning, its so sad.
My dad is so upset. Naturally he is. His friend is being cremated. His cremation is happening today. I thought it was happening pretty quick, but maybe that’s what he wanted.
Before the cremation, he’s reposing at the funeral home for a few hours. I don’t know though, why he’s reposing, as that’s not what he wanted, since he was all swollen up, his head, hands, legs etc were all swelled up for the last few weeks before his death.
My dad is finding it extremely difficult to cope. He’s not good at showing emotions. You can tell he’s upset but he doesn’t want to let me in, he really doesn’t want to admit how upset he actually is about the whole thing.
He only saw his friend that one time before he died. He did tell me that the reason he didn’t go see him again is that he didn’t want to remember him being ill, he wanted to remember him the way he used to be.
That’s fair enough I suppose. He’s worried now about seeing him today in the funeral home. He said he will probably look awful. And he’s worrying about having that image of him burned into his mind.
I hope he’ll be able to cope. I worry about him. I hope it wont be too hard for him to see his friends dead body.
If you pray, please pray my dad will be ok.
I’d appreciate it. thanks, guys!