So I had my appointment with my new mentor, Aisling, and it went really really well.
We started off by doing some paperwork. We talked about the limits of confidentiality, data protection, and I gave her dr. Barry and Eileens contact details, just in case she needs them in the future.
I told her I hadnt gone in there with an agenda. I told her my mental health was suffering lately. That I needed to discuss some things, including sleep, starting work, anxiety, dissociation. She was very kind, and asked me what she could do to support me in accessing information, so I asked her if she’d email me on any details, details of things going on in shine, also she said she’d email me on notes about our sessions which I think is going to be very helpful.
I decided to be very honest with her, so I told her upfront that I am an abuse survivor. I told her I had did, I told her that I’ve had a lot of trauma in my life up to now and she was really great about all of it.
I think I’m going to like working with her. She was very open with me also. She told me in our conversation that she used to struggle with bad anxiety, and depression and she shared what works for her in regards to a bed time routine. She told me she’d share it with me and I could take what was helpful from it and leave the rest.
That was mostly what we spoke about. She said in regards to working with younger alters, she shared with me that for her, she likes to work from a more childish frame of mind, as she feels very young at heart. So she said perhaps we should make a chart, put stickers on it, stars or some other sort, and every time we achieve something from our bedtime routine that we’d stick a star on the chart. The kids loved that idea. They wanted to try it right away. I think that will work for us. So she wrote up some notes for me and I am going to implement some of the stuff we talked about into my night time routine over the next week until we meet again next week.
She wrote down a list of helpful things, and not so helpful things that I am currently doing at night, and I will have that for reference now going forward which will be good I think.
She is training to be a therapist, and I think she’ll make a fantastic psychotherapist. She’s really good with people, with talking things through, finding a solution, and working out where to go and what to try out. It was a really helpful session. She also told me that I can talk about suicide with her, and not to feel like I cant bring that up in case she’d need to break my confidentiality. That she wants our space to be a safe place to discuss anything that comes up for me, even if I feel suicidal at times.
I’m very very happy with my session. I feel we discussed a lot and now I have a plan to go on. I will work in some things we talked about at night over the next few nights, and see how I go. She told me there might be nights where nothing we’ve talked about works, she said thats ok, we’ll keep working on things until we get somewhere with the sleep hygiene.
Here is a bit of her email to me regarding what to try and how to go about getting a good nights sleep.
Discussed tailoring a night time routine to suit the younger alters
– drinking tea and coffee
– using my phone at night
– going to bed at different times
– napping during the day
– lavender oil in diffuser
– lavender bed spray
– lavender hand cream
– breathing exercise
– magnesium spray
– same time every night
– phone away
– audio book before bed
– showering before bed
– sleep sound app
– star charts to help build habit
I think I’m going to beat this and get some type of routine finally going and maybe just maybe I’ll begin to sleep better!