Well guys I am in Dublin. I am having a blast. I went with my mom, sister, and some of my sisters partners family. We went to celebrate my sisters partners moms 60th birthday. We took the train yesterday morning to Dublin. It takes 3 hours to get there by train. Some of the people drove and they took our luggage so we didnt have to carry it. When we got there I asked mom if she wanted to take a cab to our hotel. The hotel was outside the city. She said no, that we’d get the bus into the city centre and then get a tram to where our hotel was. All very well, and thats what we did, but it took us 2 hours to get to the hotel. When we got off the tram we had to walk for 20 minutes to get to the hotel. My sister looked up google maps on her phone and we followed their directions. Its a real posh hotel. We got a good deal though. For two nights bed and breakfast and one evening meal it was 130 euro. Thats pretty cheap for somewhere in Dublin. When we finally arrived we checked in to the room and then we went to the bar. It was just my mom and sister and me who got the bus and tram to the hotel. The rest were either driving and some of them went shopping in the city centre. As I said we hit the bar and had a ball. The drinks in the bar were really pricy but I had some strawberry daquiries which were delicious. I must have had 5 of them altogether. At one point last night the price of the daquiries rose from 7.50 per drink to 11.50. I couldnt believe that but I had to take the drink since it was already made up. I cant wait to tell my dad that I payed 11.50 for one drink. He’ll go nuts. We ate in the hotel restaurant last night. It was a thai food restaurant. I had pad thai which was yummy. It had chicken and prawns in it and noodles and a sauce and vegetables. We stayed in the bar for the rest of the night. The place was buzzing and the atmosphere was amazing. Lots of our insiders were so happy to be able to let their hair down. Especially Liz. I think I finally went to bed at like 2 AM. But I only slept for about 3 hours. Mom and I shared a room and mom doesnt sleep very well either so we were both up at 5:30 AM. Today we’re going to a local shopping mall to do some christmas shopping. We’re also going to the movies to see brooklyn. I’m looking forward to seeing it. It sounds like it is a good movie with a good story line. Then tonight I bet we hit the bar again. Right now mom is getting ready to go down for breakfast. I’m already showered and dressed and am just waiting for her. Cant wait to see what breakfast will consist of since the hotel is really posh. I took lots of pictures last night. I already posted all of them to facebook. Its just so nice to get away for the weekend and have some fun. I really needed the break after all the hard work at college the last few weeks. Also after the hard dates that just passed.
I saw Karen O this morning for my nutritional appointment. The bad news is I have put on 5 pounds over the past couple of weeks. I am disappointed, but I was prepared. I knew I’d put on some weight. We said that I should enjoy my weekend and then start next Monday with the healthy eating plan again. So thats what I am gonna do. I am gonna use lesitan seeds because they help break down fat. Since I dont have a gall bladder I need help to break the fat down. I have goals for next week to lose 1 to 2 pounds, drink more water, and use the seeds with each meal. I hope I can reach my goals. I felt bad for gaining the weight but I know we all slip sometimes so I am trying to not beat myself up about it. I knew I had a lot going on these past couple of weeks so it was bound to happen. Now all I can do is do my best to get back on track again
Its Jasmine. I wanted to write about therapy. Yesterday I talked to Eileen. I talked for almost all of our session. It was hard but I was able to talk and I felt better afterwords.
We talked about programming. and suicide. I told Eileen that I felt bad because I was always wishing I was dead or thinking about ways to die. Eileen said that must be a terrible burden to carry. She asked me if I’d like to experience life as it is now. Like if I’d like to do things and experience what life is like for us now. I said yes I would. So then we did an exercise to try to give me a glimpse in to our current life. It was so overwhelming. When Carol anne came back out Eileen asked her if she’d help me to experience some fun this weekend. And she said she would. That will be cool. I’ve never experienced any fun times. Mostly when I am out it is all about death, dying, and suicide. I cant imagine what it will be like to experience something fun and enjoyable. I’m willing to try though.
I also asked eileen if we could continue to work on my programming in therapy over the next couple of weeks to try to break some of it. She said yes and that she wants to help me and she’s happy that I want to finally be free and break free from the abusers and the abuse.
So after a long extended break I am going back to my nutritionist tomorrow. I am not looking forward to it. I’ve been so horrible about eating healthily lately. Its been a crazy few weeks. I havent been mindful of my eating habits. I know I’ve gained some weight. I was doing so well and I hate to take a step backwards but oh well. Things happen. I will just have to start over. If my weight wasnt such a huge trigger, it would be easier. Unfortunately it is though. I think the best thing I can do now is just be totally honest with my nutritionist. Tell her exactly how things have been these past few weeks. Hopefully talking about it will help somehow. The other thing I can do is go in there with a positive attitude. Yes I’ve been horrible about what I eat lately, but that doesnt mean its the end of the world. Next week is a new week and a new week means a new start.
This is my new facebook page for my blog. Please, I’d be ever so grateful if you’d like and share it. I will post updates to the page frequently as well as other random stuff about myself and my life. If you could share this so that I can gain likes I’d appreciate it.
Blog facebook page for therapy bits
A- Age:body age 35, insiders of all ages in here
B- Biggest fear: Ending up dead due to comitting suicide
C- Current time: 6:31 AM
D- Drink you last had: Coffee
E- Every day starts with: checking my phone
F- Favorite song: Hello by Adelle
G- Ghosts, are they real: Yes
H- Hometown: Cork, Ireland
I- In love with: My family most of the time, I love my psychiatrist and therapist and friends in a non sexual way
J- Jealous of: People who have their sight
K- Kids: none
L- Last time you cried: Its been about a week
M- Middle name: Majella
N- Number of siblings: 1 younger sister
O- One wish: To be happy
P- Person you last called: My partner
Q- Question you’re always asked: whats it like to be blind?
R- Reason to smile: my dog Nitro
S- Song last sang: taylor swifts new song cant remember the name of it now lol
T- Time you woke up: 5 AM
U- Underwear Color: Nude
V- Vacation destination: I’d love to go to australia
W- Worst habit: Overanalysing
X- X-Rays you’ve had: chest
Y- Your favorite food: any pasta dish, pizza, chilli cheese burgers, taco fries
Z- Zodiac sign: Aries
We saw Dr Barry yesterday. I was nervous all day before our appointment. I had to build myself up to it. I kept thinking something would go wrong or I wouldnt be able to talk to her like I usually can. But I neednt have worried. She was in a really good mood when she came to get me from the waiting room. When we went in to the office and sat down she simply asked me how I was doing and I was able to start and open up quite easily.
I told her about last week. About how after we did up the report and worked on it that parts got really triggered and some were even suicidal. She asked me to explain to her how that manifested so I did. She listened and then she said she was not going to send the report. That she felt it would be in our best interests not to send it right now. That we were too fragile and she didnt want to unsettle us further. That maybe in a few months things would be different. But for now she would not submit it.
I told her I didnt want her to get in to any trouble. That I knew the police were requesting this and if she didnt comply would she get into trouble because I certainly didnt want that. She said not to worry, that if they sent a letter to her she would deal with it, but that I shouldnt worry about her and whether not submitting the report would cause her to get into trouble, that if they wrote to her she’d just tell them we werent emotionally ready and that is why she was waiting.
I told her how liz, one of our parts had said that the police really didnt care anyway, because it had been a year since they wrote to her and in that year they hadnt wrote back to see what the status of the report was or whether it was close to being done. Liz thinks they just dont care about us so that is why they didnt bother. Dr Barry said its probably that the information is sitting on someones desk and wont be looked at unless the report goes in to them. Either way we’re very unsure. We’ve had bad experiences with the police in the past and now we just dont trust them.
But the main thing? Dr Barry wants us to feel safe. She doesnt want us unsettled and feeling overwhelmed or like its all too much for us. She is ensuring our safety and I am so grateful to her for that.
The rest of the appointment we spent talking about college, therapy, sleep, my upcoming weekend away, family, etc. We jumped around a lot from one thing to another. I think I was in with her for over an hour. Mark our OT has left a note in our file about last weeks meeting which Dr Barry read out to me. It was so nice to hear him talk about us exceling in our exams, and doing so well. It made me have a warm feeling inside.