There is this girl who I know, I’ve known her for 20 years. She has bipolar disorder, but when I first met her I didnt know she had a mental illness, actually, I dont even know if she was diagnosed at the time.
She is dr. Barrys patient also. Well currently she’s in the psych hospital, and she’s in there under a section, that means she’s involuntarly in there, Dr. Barry is keeping her in there involuntarily for her own safety.
She’s very unwell. She’s been texting and calling me, and I am not in a place to be dealing with her calls and texts. I told Dr. Barry about what she was doing yesterday, and Dr. Barry said she’d talk to her but that it would be today before she could. Well yeah, you guessed it she’s just called me again, asking me to be a bridesmaid at a wedding she’s supposedly having with a guy she met in the hospital, I just ignored that part, she’s obviously very manic and thinking she is going to marry this guy but I know she isnt.
Its crazy and to be honest I’m not in a place to be dealing with that level of craziness especially when I am feeling so crazy myself right now. I am so overwhelmed and heading into crisis that I just cant deal with anyone else’s crazy. I had to give in and go to my parents because I felt so unsafe at home earlier this evening, that is where I’m at right now. I cried and begged my mom to let me come over, and she said of course I could come over. I am desperately anxious and overwhelmed right now. I dont need all this. I am going to block her number, and when she’s a little bit better I will unblock her again, I have to do this for me, I just have to. Do you think I am doing the right thing? I sound like a bitch but guys I just am so unwell myself right now that this is my only option. I know I’m not being a very good friend to her but well I cant help it.
Obviously Dr. Barry had a chat with her and she wouldnt listen or didnt take what dr. barry said to her on bord.
So well, blocking her is what I need to do. I can do that on my I phone thankfully. Not sure what happens when you block someone whether they get told you’ve blocked them or not and actually I hadnt thought to do it until my friend suggested it because I am so overwhelmed that I forgot you can block someone.
Would you do the same thing in my position or do you honestly think I’m being unreasonable and being a bitch? Tell me truthfully because I wont be offended.
I think that’s a very reasonable decision. One, she’s in hospital, so you don’t have to worry that she’s not getting any support. And if you barely have the resources to take care of your own mental health, there’s really nothing left to spare for her.
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Exactly 💕
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I think that blocking her is the best thing you can do. This sort of situation is probably one of the reasons that psych hospitals around here confiscate your phone while you’re impatient and limit the use of a community phone next to the nurse’s desk.
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Over here you are allowed your phone unless you are in the locked unit then it was taken away normally I am glad that you can have your phone in the hospital but I wish that someone would take hers away as she keeps calling and texting me
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We used to have unlocked units here, but the agency that certifies hospitals, and I think insurance companies, require all units to be locked now.
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I’m glad it’s not like that here, my phone is a lifesaver for me when I’m in hospital
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I don’t believe the person is told you blocked them atleast not here anyway. It just rings and rings on their end.
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Okay that’s good, that’s good to know
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Block away! You must protect yourself first. I’m a softie, and that’s still what I think.
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Thanks Rebecca, I did, I know I need to protect myself
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Early abuse can make us hesitant to do so. I’m glad you know your right to protect yourself. Hugs, R
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Thanks Rebecca, I know, you’re right, I do need to protect myself so I will do this for me, it’s important
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I believe it’s not only important, but can help us heal. Hugs, R that’s true Rebecca 🙂
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True Rebecca 🙂
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Block!
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I did 💕
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I’m glad you protected yourself. While it’s nice to think we can help others in need, we have to first make sure we’re in an okay place with enough emotional resources ❤️
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You are right Paula, I’m no good to anyone if I can’t take care of myself first 😊
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You are absolutely not a bitch! You have to protect your own well-being first, or you r we on’t be able to be a friend to her or to anyone. Please take good care!
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Thanks so much everyone has been so understanding no I feel much better about blocking her for now at least
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I think you did the right thing. When I had my first (and only) psychotic episode, I was sending out texts that made no sense. The person I sent them to blocked me; she didn’t get me the help I needed because she did not know what was going on. That being said, I totally understand why she did what she did. She had to protect herself. I felt embarrassed by my actions after the fact. On the mental health crisis plan that I have since developed, I have told my loved ones to take my phone away if they notice me becoming manic again so that everyone can be protected. In this case, like you said, your friend is in the hospital getting the help that she needs, so I think what you did is perfectly okay! You have to protect your own mental health too.
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I am glad she is getting the help she needs, it’s good she is in the hospital where she can get the help. I have to do it from my own sanity but I feel bad all the same.
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I think it’s normal to feel that way…you sound like a good friend.
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Thank you, I do try to be, I like her a lot and I do hope she gets help and gets better soon
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I am sure you did the right thing. She clearly isn’t able to be considerate of your feelings right now, so you have to take care of this yourself. But of course it’s not a good situation.
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Thank you, everyone is being so understanding, I really appreciate the support of you all 😚💟
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