Virtually being held by our therapist

Therapy today was awesome! We had a great session and Eileen was amazing.
During the session some of the kids had a hard time feeling eileens presence, they didnt understand that she could see them, some of them do, but some dont understand about it being online now. They were wondering why we werent in eileens office, and seeing her, sitting next to her, and being with her.
Then eileen had an idea. She said for us to put our hand our left hand on our right shoulder, just like she does when we’re upset or stressed out.
We did it, and it was instant, the connection! Eileen said she was reaching out to us, and connecting, doing it too, and she even said she felt heat under her own hand, as if our shoulder was right there under her hand.
Then, she had us do the butterfly hug, which is part of EMDR, and she also did it with us, even going at the same speed with the tapping that we were doing.
Being virtually held made us all feel so safe.
She kept saying to us, you are safe, I am here with you, listen to my voice, I am in your living room, we are connected.
It was such a validating experience! I never thought online therapy would work so well, but it actually does. Even Eileen agrees, she said she had misgivings too at first, but she’s glad we’re doing it now, and she still feels our connection as strongly as if we were in her office and sitting together.
I am so glad she does, because, I do too.


Author: Carol Anne

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

16 thoughts on “Virtually being held by our therapist”

  1. Yay! Glad to hear about the great online session. I have been amazed at how helpful and personal online therapy sessions have felt for me too. Sounds like you’re making great progress. -Rebecca


  2. I’m glad it worked so well! I had to “see” my therapist over the phone yesterday. I couldn’t do it in the house, my daughter can hear every word anyone says anywhere in the house clearly. She has awesome hearing, but it is very irritating, as she is very snoopy. So I had to go out and use the phone. It just wasn’t the same, I wasn’t comfortable at all.


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