When I switch, how my family handle it?

Becky of beckys mental mess has asked me a question which I thought I would answer in a new post here on my blog, rather than in a comment.

She asked me how my family handle me switching…and if they recognise it.

In a nutshell, they arent really great with it. They know of my did, they see it play out every day, but they dont really accept it. I think my mom sorta does, she sometimes does nice things for the kids, but she never acknowledges the kids by name.

But occasionally, she does things that the kids really enjoy, and she’ll often say I’m very child like, or acting childish, but little does she know its actually a young insider whose out at the time.

When parts come out, they dont identify themselves to our family, because they have learned there really is no point. Some years back, dr. barry had a long talk to my mom, where she tried to explain did to her.

That went well, my mom seemed to get it well to the best of her ability she did.

Dr. Barry explained did as being like a puzzle, with many pieces, that fit in all different places, she also explained switching to her and how did happens.

Of course my mom doesnt like to talk about my abuse, so thats probably one reason why she really cant accept that I have parts.

My dad is another story entirely. I never talk to him about my mental health, as he’s anti meds, anti doctors, anti therapy you get the picture.

My alters dont get along with him either, especially liz, liz and him have a similar type personality and they clash.

Am I happy with how things are right now? Yes. I pretty much am. All I ever wanted was for my mom to acknowledge that I have did, and she does that, I know it would be nice if she acknowledged the alters and had a relationship with them, but really, I dont think she’s capable of that, because for her to do that would mean she’d really have to look at what happened to me in dublin, and I dont think its in her to be able to really do that.

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Author: Carol anne

I am 40 years young. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

15 thoughts on “When I switch, how my family handle it?”

  1. Blimey, families are difficult places but it sometimes help to acknowledge that our parents do everything in their capabity. I am glad you are ok as how things are but I suspect it needs lots of work with your insiders because it must be sp hard for them. Sending all of you a hug. πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ

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  2. That’s interesting, but so sad that your insiders aren’t acknowledged by your family for who they really are. It makes sense though that if your mum struggles to accept what happened to you in Dublin she’ll deny your DID as well. But I’m glad she’s made some progress and tries her best, and does some nice things for you. πŸ™‚ I think DID is generally a tricky thing, as many mental illnesses are, and it must be awfully hard to understand it for people who are neurotypical and mentally healthy, even with the best of intentions.

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