A car conversation with my niece

So this is the conversation that took place in the car between my 11 year old niece Lauren and I yesterday.

Lauren: Can you see colors? Or what do you see?
Me: No, I cant see any colors.
Lauren: So its all black?
Me: Well no, its not black either. I know when its dark and bright, but thats just something in my brain that makes it like that, its not actually my eyes showing me that.
Lauren: But why?
Me: Well I have no backs to my eyes. I was born without them.
Lauren: But cant you get new backs?
Me: Unfortunately not sweetie. You have to grow with them, you cant replace them.
Lauren: But cant you get surgery?
Me: Well if I had millions of bucks I would.
Lauren: But can you actually get surgery to fix your eyes?
Me: I dunno hun, I doubt it.
Lauren: I’d hate to not be able to see.
Me: Oh I dont mind, why would you hate it?
Lauren: I’d be so paranoid not being able to see.

Bless her. The innocence of it. Its the first time she’s really spoken to me about my blindness, besides asking a few questions about it when she was younger.

She must have been thinking about it. She’s at that age now, where she wants answers to everything.

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Author: Carol anne

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

11 thoughts on “A car conversation with my niece”

  1. I like how open you are to your niece’s questions. Just by being yourself, you are giving her a great education in empathy and perspective. One of my parents has monocular vision since early childhood. They are often asked about their condition by strangers because of a cloudy appearance to the eye. -Rebecca

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    1. My wife lost the use of her left eye in a fall about 4 years ago. People often ask about it, but in her case, the eye is only half open, and it often looks bruised around it. I think they are worried that someone hit her in the eye.

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      1. How difficult to lose an eye as an adult. I’m sorry to hear about what happened to your wife. In my parent’s case, since it happened when they were a year old, they say they’ve never known any different, so they are used to the monocular vision. How is your wife doing?


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