had a great apt with dr. barry today. really got in to a lot with her. we talked about the time of the year, and how we are really struggling for the next month. I asked her if there was any possibility we could see the mental health nurse sara over the month of october as some extra support. She said yes that wouldnt be a problem, and she thought that it would actually be a great idea. So she is going to speak to her at their team meeting next monday. Even if its just phone support, at least there will be extra support, an extra person checking in with us. So I am happy about that. We talked about therapy as well, I told her about the darks working with eileen, working on why it is they do what they do, why they feel the need to contact past abusers, and respond to them. Dr. barry likened it to learning a new dance, she said its hard not to do the old one when you hear the music, she said if you know it, you’ll automatically do what you know, its like that with the darks too. They are learning a new way of being, and trying to change, and getting to a place where they no longer feel the need to contact abusers, but that takes time, and there will be hiccups along the way. I liked her analagy of it being like a familiar dance. I could relate to that. I told her about our friend asking me to talk to her on her behalf. She was not happy about it. She apologised to me, told me she was sorry that I was stuck in the middle of this. She said that she wasnt able to discuss her case, I knew she wouldnt be able to, and she wasnt able to tell me what she was going to do about it, but she said she would be doing something as this sort of behaviour wasnt acceptible and it wasnt fair on us to be put in that predicament. So I know she’ll deal with it. She said she knows too that when I am ready, and in a better headspace than I am in now, I’ll talk to my friend, and tell her that its not right what she did. And I will, just not right now. Right now I am dealing with a lot and dont feel up to having that conversation with her. We talked about moving to a new building, dr. barry said its happening within the next two weeks. We’ll be moving to a purpose built building. There wont only be mental health providers there though, there will be a whole lot of medical personel, doctors, clinics etc. We talked about our needs, and how we may need extra help. Dr. barry said that would be fine, she understood we need extra support and she said maybe the mental health nurse sarah can help us with that too. That sounds good to me. She said for me to take it that our next apt in two weeks will be in the old building unless I hear otherwise. They havent finalised things yet and dr. barry said her team havent been fully informed yet about the move, they’ve only been told that the move is happening. Its a lot of change though and we’re not good with change. Other than that we just discussed the letters I found from my gramma last weekend, we talked about slimming world, and a few other things as well. It was a really great appointment.