Therapy talk: Reaching out and making new friends

so i talked some in therapy today. we talked about how i miss my friends in jess’s system. i had good friends in her system and now i dont ever talk to them since they are in residential. i miss them so much. i feel sad that i cant talk to them when i want to. we used to email every day. we used to talk on the phone also. and of course we saw each other when we’d visit them in person too.
i told eileen that im afraid to let myself get close to another person or make friends in other systems because what if something happens and we dont talk, or what if something goes wrong.
eileen said its like being on an island, your alone on an island, surrounded by water, and afraid to reach out and connect with anyone. she said she knows im afraid but not doing it not connecting with others is cutting myself off from people.
she encouraged me to try to make some new friends. try to reach out. so i said i will try.
Butterfly hugs
Emily, age 12


Author: Carol Anne

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

10 thoughts on “Therapy talk: Reaching out and making new friends”

  1. Heyy! I know how scary it can be to get out of your comfort zone and talk to people you don’t know, but just be you and you’ll do great! I’m definitely suggesting this because I feel like you might want to make new friends and it might be a good experience for you. I have trust issues myself though so I can relate to you, and it’s completely understandable if you don’t want to go with it. I’d say go with your gut and do what you want to do. Take care! 🙂

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  2. I’m glad you talked to her, Emily. I also hope you can reach out and make some new friends. It sounds like the host, Jess just isn’t doing very well right now and so that closes her system off from you, even if there are those in the system who would like to communicate. I know what it’s like to have certain friends and then they aren’t around anymore or at least as much as you would like. Hugs. xxx

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  3. Hi Emily, I am so sorry you are missing your friends. I can understand why you are afraid to reach out to new friends. I felt the same for a very long time. You will find a solution when you are ready.


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