Invasion of privacy

today while at the basement club my friend who is another member her name is denise, took me aside. she said she needed to tell me something. then she proceeded to tell me that another member had been reading what was on my laptop screen over my shoulder. and in fact this member came in and sat right next to me gto get a better look, although i didnt know at the time that is the reason he sat next to me. denise said she had mentioned to staff in the past that people were sometimes looking at my screen trying to read what was on it and the staff had told her she needed to say it to me. i thanked her for saying it to me. i felt so hurt. this person is a nosey parker. he likes to know everything about everyone and then gossips and talks about others when they arent there to defend themselves. now more often than not when i am in there i am not doing anything that is too private, sometimes i might answer emails and fill out forms and stuff but most of the time i am just on facebook and wordpress. but thats not the point. th e point is he shouldnt be doing it knowing i cant see, and even more to the point he shouldnt have pulled up a chair next to me to get a better look at what i was doing. denise said i should mention it to staff at the members meeting today which is what i did. the only staff present was bruno so i mentioned it to him and he apologised and told me he’d mentioned it to the member in question and tell him that its an invasion of my privacy and he is not to continue to do it. i hope he will mention it. i might also say it to the member in question because now that i said it aloud at the meeting i feel more confident to say it to him. its sneaky of him to do this knowing i am blind and would not know unless someome had the decency to tell me. luckily denise did. i told my friend rose whose also a member at the basement club we were talking by text and i was telling her and she flipped and said if it was her she’d kill him and she thought he should be suspended for what he did. i doubt that will happen though. still i may say it to denise the other denise who is the co-ordinator when she gets back from her holidays. it left me feeling very vulnerable today. just knowing my privacy was compramised. i hope there wont be a repeat performance of it any time soon.

Author: Carol Anne

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

16 thoughts on “Invasion of privacy”

  1. Jeez that’s really NOT on!! I’d be furious!! He took advantage of the fact that he knew you couldn’t see!! He wouldn’t dare do that if you were a sighted person. It’s sick! I think he should be suspended for a few weeks and told if it happens again then he’ll be excluded permanently. Good on Denise for telling you, she’s a good friend.

    This might sound like a silly question… but can you use the PC with the screen off? Would it still work? That might make you feel safer if you can? Probably a totally stupid, ignorant question so if it is I apologise. I’m just sat here with my laptop connected to a separate monitor with the lid of the laptop shut and it would continue working as normal with the screen off because that’s how I’ve set it up. Might that work for you?

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      1. Someone with a little I.T. knowledge should be able to sort it out for you, it might be as simple as just turning the screen off if it’s a desktop with a monitor. If it’s a laptop then it just needs someone to go into the settings and have a fiddle. Sure someone with some I.T knowledge could help/advise.


  2. Ewww! It’s really boorish of him. It always drives me crazy when someone tries to enter in my privacy, I guess I might be a little paranoid about it even 😀 so he would definitely feel the consequences of doing anything like this to me and it would be really painful for him. I just can’t tolerate nosiness and something like this is extreme nosiness for me as he was doing it with the consciousness that you can’t see so won’t do anything with it unless someone will tell you. It was very very nice of Denise that she told you. I hope it won’t happen anymore. I think I’d react and show him that I won’t tolerate it absolutely if he’d do it again if I’d be in your situation. Though I agree with Rose, most probably I’d just want to kill him.

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