Therapy anxiety

No I am anxious about going to therapy. I thought I wouldn’t be today. What do you do when you’re anxious about seeing your therapist, about what will come up in the session. It’s tricky. I hate anxiety so much. It really sucks. I hope it gets better once I get there. Any advice would be appreciated


Author: manyofus1980

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

24 thoughts on “Therapy anxiety”

  1. You might consider these things. I urge you to honor your anxiety around therapy today — be curious and examine it, know it has a “purpose” which you may understand soon. And then,, gather your courageous Self, and go forward to see your therapist. She is your absolute ally, and is with you, through thick and thin. You are not alone with her. Try to accept that whatever comes up in the session was meant to come up – so that you can grow, and grieve, and accept yourself……..for you are wonderful and amazing! (Just as you are!!)

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  2. I echo what Leslie said just with the additional thing of self-care. Eg. I normally take the park and ride in to see my therapist but if I feel anxious or that it might not go well, I’ll drive all the way in so I don’t have to worry about crying on the bus. Also, if you have a comfort object take it with you. Is it one particular part which is anxious? Like the little ones or is all of you anxious? If one particular group or part then tailor your self-care needs to them and love them through it.

    Do whatever it takes to get there and remember Eileen is there to support you. Whatever comes up you’re not alone xx


    1. The awareness of self-care, as All The Little Parts says, is just so smart and practical and life-saving. Yes, we know how hard it can be, and yes — let it be us who helps ourselves whenever possible – to get through. Doing what WE can to ease the pain takes practice, self-advocacy, and self-compassion. Not always easy, but so important.


      1. Keep up the good work (and it is work!). Self-care does not come easily to many of us – and we must learn it (almost like a skill). Thanks, Carol Anne. Your blog, the readers, and people who write-in are helping to share what it is to live with better mental health. Grateful!

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  3. I have the same problem at the moment. I am so afraid of therapy sessions and also of my therapist even though he has never done anything to me. Last week I simply did not show up. He did not like this AT ALL. He said we had a commitment and I should have phoned at least. I normally do this but this time I stayed in bed.

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    1. I can hear how frightened you were. I have had years of hiding from things that I felt I could not face. Perhaps – and this is simply suggestion…..a call to your doctor beforehand, saying how terrible you are feeling, and that with hope, you expect to still be at the therapy session.
      That would be one way for me to let my doctor know I am in bad shape, but will still show up. Unless we are in the hospital, not showing up can’t help us. I guess what I am saying is that when we are able to put one foot in front of the other, and make it to the office, it is there that some relief from our pain can happen.
      Thank you for abiding what I write.
      I mean to wish you only good.

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      1. You are right Leslie, it is only when we put 1 foot in front of the other and allow someone else to validate us and here are paying that the healing can truly begin


    2. It is hard, I guess you should have phoned, but hindsight is a great thing isn’t it? Maybe you can talk to him about it and tell him how stressed you are and how distressed you were about coming to therapy maybe that would help


  4. I don’t really have any advice as I have just started going to therapy again. I had a friend tell me once, that the days I don’t want to go, are the days that I really need to go.

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      1. I think on some level, people think they should not go to doctors (mental or physical) because “what will they think”, or “I should have it figured out before I see the doctor”. Things like that. And it makes perfect sense that we get anxious, because we do not know what will transpire, and we definitely do not have it all figured out.

        With time, I believe, I have learned to use honesty as my guide. Saying stuff like “I am really scared to bring this up”, “could you please help me begin to talk about it……”.
        That’s where the therapist’s own skills come in.

        One of the hardest things for me is to talk about my body. Sometimes I just have to plain write things down and give them to my doctor to read. And sometimes, in order to talk about these things, I do regress when I express things.

        I figure, if my doctor does not understand and accept me, who will?

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      2. Very good. Leslie, you’re right, it’s all about feeling excepted being validated having someone understand and hear our pain, that is what their train for after all


      3. I think that if we are able to say, clearly, to our doctors, therapists: “Today, what I truly need from you is your acceptance….”, I think that is a very big step. For one thing, we are asking for our needs. All of our lives we may have never done that, or been too ashamed, or too afraid Even to know what we need may be a huge step! I think this is a way on the road to asking for what we need and want, and to realizing that is very normal, and natural.


  5. I was very often anxious about my therapy not so long ago, though now it’s better. Then I did all that I do when I’m anxious about whatever. So I try to relax, cuddle with Misha, anything that makes me feel a bit relaxed. I hope your session was good and that anxiety left you quickly. Maybe this anxiety is related to the chaos in your system that happened after the previous session? I think it’s always good to know the reason of anxiety, if it’s possible, ’cause then sometimes it’s easier to rationalise. Hugs. 🙂


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