when two relationships collide

we saw dr. barry this morning. we had a lot to talk about with her.
eileen had called her on Monday after our therapy session. she called to talk to her about the fact that we were struggling with having two similar relationships, we werent clear on things surrounding our theraputic relationship with eileen, and the doctor patient relationship with dr. barry. there was some confusion within the system among the alters about it.
so we talked things over today with dr. barry. and she cleared things up for us. basically she said her role is to discuss treatment options. meds, symptoms, home life, etc. she said she does not have the same experience as eileen does and she isnt going to pretend that she does. she said she is not equipped to do trauma work and she wouldnt even begin to try.
she said she thinks that its important that either me liz, or carol anne comes to the appointments and that she needs to talk to one of us or someone older in the system to ensure our safety, thats ok, because its rare the kids come out during our appointments. occasionally they do and she will talk to them but she said today she felt it important that older insiders would come so in the future i am going to try to ensure that happens.
we talked about our attachment to her and she said she felt we were still insecure in our attachment. but she said we have made lots of progress in lots of areas but that we need to talk about the attachment and the challenges that brings up for us some more. we are also going to talk about the possibility of improving and being ok and that thats ok, its ok to actually be ok and improving, that we’re not going to lose support just because we might be doing a little bit better and have become more stable. she said she’s not fully convinced that we see that yet. i think she’s right.
for now we’re continuing to have appointments with her twice a week. she said she is doing that to keep us out of the hospital. i did ask her why she was doing it because recently we had considered increasing our therapy sessions and dr. barry had said she felt we shouldnt do that and then she went ahead and began to see us twice a week so that made me wonder what her motive was in that.
it was a good appointment and i am glad we discussed things. i left feeling much better and way less confused about our relationship with her.

Author: manyofus1980

I am a woman in my mid 30's. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

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