Hurting because of my sister

since i went into hospital my sister hasnt made any effort to contact me. she hasnt called. she hasnt texted. and it hurts. i thought she cared. i said it to mom and mom said she’s been asking about me through her but that she hates when i am in the hospital. thats ok but fucking hell ask me? i’m human. i hurt and my heart is hurting. i just want my sister to actually give a damn. i called her this morning, just to chat. she didnt answer. i know she’s seen my missed call because mom said she called her too and she called mom back. but not me. obviously i’m not important to her. it feels so fucking rejecting. my own sister, my own flesh and blood. i’ve done so much lately to improve our relationship and all for what? if she cant even be bothered to call me back when i reach out then fine. i am done. i wont try again.

Author: Carol anne

I am 40 years young. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

12 thoughts on “Hurting because of my sister”

  1. Hi Carol Anne. My sister did the same thing when I was in hospital. She was angry at me for being in hospital in the first place. My psychologist suggested that my sister was afraid. When I was in hospital it frightened my sister and she was afraid she had “lost” me in some way. She couldn’t handle it and didn’t call me or text me or anything. I was really upset but I understand now that she was afraid. Maybe it’s something similar with your sister? She feels she has “lost” you somehow? I’m sorry for you Carol Anne. I completely understand what it feels like.

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    1. Thank you for understanding, I’m sorry your sister treated you like that too, it’s so hard isn’t it? I hope my sister will come to terms with things and we can move on from this

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  2. That is rude of her. Not to excuse her behavior but if you two usually have an ok relationship, it might be like verlorenzaak said, that she is just scared and overwhelmed, and not sure what to say or do. Worried she might make it worse, or say something dumb. My baby sister called yesterday and I haven’t returned her call, not because I don’t love her, but sometimes I don’t know what to say, and frankly calling anyone right now is hard. I hate the phone sometimes. But I love my sister so I will reach out, just not right now.

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  3. We all have our issues. When I get stressed I disconnect. I don’t answer my phone or call or talk and I might have been there for you everyday and suddenly I’m gone and you barely know me. Often times we interpret other’s behaviors to be about us but really it is about them. I know that’s not helpful and you are hurting and wish your sister was closer but she will be again. Keep loving her just because you love her. I’m grateful for he people who waiting for me to come back and still know to wait.

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