Good therapy versus bad therapy?

Over my life I’ve had many therapists.  Since age 17 I’ve been in some form of psychotherapy.  Over the years I’ve learned the difference between good and bad therapy.  The therapist I have now is wonderful.  She is experienced, well versed in trauma, trained in EMDR, kind, compassionate, has good boundaries, is gentle, a good listener, lets me lead the therapy process, and so so much more.  I’ve also had a therapist who was the complete opposite and was extremely bad for me and did a lot of damage.  She had pretty lose boundaries, she treated me more like her friend than her client, she did not let me lead therapy, she told me too much info about herself, her life, her family, info that I did not need to know.  She pretty much made the sessions all about her.  I did not feel heard or listened to at all.  And this therapist was a psychologist who’d been working in the field for 20 plus years.  I feel it is so very important to have a good therapist.  It really does make all the difference when your trying to heal.  After all, your therapist is the one person who you should be able to completely and fully open up to.  Feeling safe in therapy is key.

Author: Carol anne

I am 40 years young. I'm blind and I have dissociative identity disorder, I also have complex PTSD. I blog about my life with these disorders. I live in Ireland.

4 thoughts on “Good therapy versus bad therapy?”

  1. hi I am having problems with my therapist of 14 years. Like your previous therapist, she wants to treat me more of a friend than a client. But instead of talking about herself (she doesn’t unless i ask), she just rambles on and on about things and it pisses me off. I had a post that dealt with it but I took it down because I didnt want my therapist to read it (i sent it to her). She read it anyway, which was good because we had a good chat today. I have had a lot of therapist since the age of 15 so I can relate to this post. I am glad you have one that “fits” with you.

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  2. I’m so sorry that you had some terrible experiences. It seems to be par for the course lately, which is beyond unfortunate. But it’s a major strength that, rather than get discouraged, you kept up with therapy, gave it a fair chance, and found someone to help meet your needs rather than getting discouraged with therapy altogether. So glad you found what works for you!
    Also, thank you for posting this. It’s brave, and it will hopefully remind people that they’re the consumer, and their therapist essentially puts out a product. It’s their right, as the consumer, to decide what is satisfactory!

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